Two short days from now there will be a frenzy of panicked loved ones and sad single individuals, all of whom have fallen victim to the consumerist, hallmark holiday that is Valentines Day. But don’t worry folks, I’m here to help. I’ve found myself in both states over the years of Valentines Days; both completely smitten and deeply in love, as well as crying on the couch with my roommate, eating entire boxes of KD and watching Disney movies. You’re not alone out there. Either way, I find that there is a lot of stress and anxiety over this holiday. Truthfully I think people put a little too much into one day….shouldn’t we be showing our love every day? May sound cheesy and a ploy to avoid buying more cards and gifts….but it’s true. So whether you’re single or steady, I’ve got some suggestions on how to spend February 14th.
Single: Sorry ladies and gents, but I’m going to be brutally honest. I’ve been in your position before and the one thing I’d go back and tell myself is SMARTEN UP SILLY!! It’s one day. Who cares that other people are celebrating their love. You won’t be single forever…It’s just one day. Just like any other day. The only benefit is there is more chocolate in stores today. If you’re really struggling then take the time to hang out with friends and just have a great Saturday night. I guarantee there will be a bar full of other singles down the street….eh?! Catch my drift?
Steady: I had some great suggestions in last years post (if I do say so myself) and a lot of these suggestions are still applicable today. There are a few different approaches you can take:
1. Subtle: Once you’ve done it a few times together, it gets a little old. The time to spoil and love each other doesn’t come only one day a year, although some flowers are still nice. This is the situation I’m in this year, and I’m quite happy there are no expectations from either of us. Corey and I have been together 4 Valentines Days now and although we still like to do excited and unexpected things now and then Saturday will be a simple, yet lovely day. We’ll make our favourite meal together, get each other a card, and spend the night together doing the same thing we always do. Maybe I’ll get to pick the movie for once.
2. Sexy: This is for those couples who need a bit of excitement and spice in their life. And that doesn’t mean they’re still a new couple. I hope 30 years down the road Corey and I still have exciting Valentines Days once in a while. Splurge. Go all out! That fancy restaurant you’ve always wanted to go to. That chilled champagne you’ve been saving for a special occasion. That little Victoria’s Secret number you’ve had your eye on. wink wink nudge nudge
3. Spendy: Not sure how to be subtle without seeming like you planned nothing? Not quite ready, or in the mood, for sexy? (….) Take the spendy route. Similar to my suggestions last year, I truly believe that Chapters/Indigo has some of the best Valentines Day themed gifts out there. Pretty pink books of love poems, pink accessories and stationary and any other love themed items you’d want. When in doubt buy the expensive roses, and a big stuffed animal. A little sparkly necklace wouldn’t be poo-pooed I’m sure.
So there you have it my friends. Whether you’re single or steady on this Valentines Day, the day should not be the cause of stress, anxiety, and possible fights. It should be a day to relax with your loved ones, or appreciate your independence.
Is my advice helpful? I hope you all have the most wonderful Valentines Day, or the best Saturday possible. Keep it sexy my friends.